detachment

[mylady131977]

What do you do when you know you need to get out of a relationship, but afraid of letting go to be completely alone.

[WolfM]

Dear Mylady,
Sit down and get a piece of paper. Make a vertical line down the center of the paper. On the left side right reasons to stay.
On the right side, write reasons to go. If there are more reasons to go, then go. If there are more reasons to stay, then stay.
Is it an abusive relationship? It is a loving relationship? How are the finances? Are there children involved? Are you married? To each other? Do you own a home? There are lots of things you can write down about relationships.
I find that when I write things down and look at them, like in my 4th step, it is easier to own them and to see what is really going on in my life.
You could also talk to a spiritual advisor about your feelings. And remember this, if you beleive in a higher power, you will never be alone.
Wolf M

[Carol87]

Mylady ... I moved your post here.? ?There is a subject here "What is detachment" that you might want to read, as well as the other topics posted here.? ?Have you considered attending Al-Anon if you haven't already done so?

[samf]

I haven't been through that in a long time. but will say I always knew when it was time.

Sometimes I took an awful lot of discomfort and pain, to get there.

My reasons for staying were myriad...but emotional security, and financial security sums up a major portion of mine, in the past.

I like what Wolf shared...it helps me a lot to write things down and look at them.

Am praying that your Higher Power will help you know what to do...hope you keep posting, talking.

Samf