THE 12 STUMBLES.

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1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing, that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us.

2. Came to believe there was no power greater than ourselves and that the rest of the world was insane.

3. Made a decision to have our loved ones and friends turn their lives over to our care, even thought they didn’t understand us.

4. Made a searching moral and immoral inventory of everyone we knew.

5. Admitted to the whole word the exact nature of everyone else’s wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to make everyone else stand up and do right.

7. Demanded that others shape up or ship out.

8. Made a list of all personal who had harmed us, and become willing to any lengths to get even with them all.

9. Took direct revenge on such people, whenever possible, except when to do so would cost us our lives, or at the very least, a jail sentence.

10. Continued to take inventory of others and when they were wrong promptly and repeatedly told them about it.

11. Sought through complaining and nagging to improve our relationships with others, as we couldn’t understand why everyone wouldn’t always do things our way.

12. Having had a complete emotional, physical and spiritual breakdown as a result of these stumbles, we tried to blame it on others and to get sympathy and pity in all our affairs.

WE CANT STOP HERE WERE ONLY HALF WAY HOME! :cool:

I begin to dislike AA conversation or company…

I willfully stay away from meetings….

I’m beginning to take another person’s inventory instead of my own…

I’m more afraid of being known as an AA member than as a drunk…

I begin to remember the Good Times I had drinking and overlook the bad times…

I condemn in others, that which I tolerate in Myself…

I say I forgive but I don’t forget…

I shrink from Self-Examination…

NEED MORE? NOT COMPLETE ? HERE ARE SOME OPTIONAL PHRASES. :cool:

I am not what I ought to be.
I am not what I want to be.
I am not what I hope to be.
But still, I am not what I used to be.
I am what I am..

There is a Solution, stop stumbling, start the Road to FREEDOM.
The Big Book, First Edition: http://www.dailyrecovery.net/BB/
The Big Book, Forth Edition: http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline/

The Twelve Steps Illustrated:
http://www.aa.org/pdf/products/p-55_twelvestepsillustrated.pdf
The 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
http://www.dailyrecovery.net/step.html

* Recovery Stories Page : http://www.dailyrecovery.net/storypg.html :87:

Nothing Changes When Nothing Changes, make the commitment to Change Today, It's never too late.:1:

[rjm]

That pretty much nails it! I love this program!

[saved1]

OUR PRIMARY PURPOSE -

When the Text Book for Alcoholics Anonymous was introduced to the public in April 1939, Bill W. stated the primary purpose of this book as follows:

“We, OF Alcoholics Anonymous, are more than one hundred men and women who have recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. To show other alcoholics PRECISELY HOW WE HAVE RECOVERED is the main purpose of this book. For them, we hope these pages will prove so convincing that no further authentication will be necessary. We think this account of our experiences will help everyone to better understand the alcoholic. Many do not comprehend that the alcoholic is a very sick person. And besides, we are sure that our way of living has its advantages for all.” A.A., pg xiii

He then laid out some general guidelines followed by Doctor Silkworth’s opinion regarding alcoholism. His opinion has since been found to be medically sound.

Interestingly enough, “The Doctor’s Opinion” is the only opinion to be found in the Basic Text. The Authors recognized that expression of “opinions,” not based on fact, could kill alcoholics. They therefore made clear what would be found in this Book regarding the Problem – alcoholism; the Solution - God as we understood Him and - the practical Program of Action which promises recovery. They declared they would share only their EXPERIENCE and KNOWLEDGE. That declaration is found on page 19 of what members of Alcoholics Anonymous call their Basic Text, “The Big Book.” It is:
“We have concluded to publish an anonymous volume setting forth the problem as WE see it. We shall bring to the task OUR COMBINED EXPERIENCE AND KNOWLEDGE which should suggest a useful program for anyone concerned with a drinking problem.”

Of course, “setting forth the problem as WE see it” would be based on the experience and knowledge of recovered alcoholics, not as seen by untreated alcoholics or non-alcoholics. Unfortunately, a great deal of how “they” see it has filtered into our meeting rooms. Since understanding the problem, alcoholism, as WE see it is absolutely essential to being willing to surrender to the Program of Recovery, we must rely on the “Doctor’s Opinion” for a clear statement of the Problem and the demonstration of that Problem as is seen in the stories of recovered alcoholics.

Those who accepted the responsibility for the lives of newcomers restricted their “teaching” to the content of that Book. The result was most who were seriously seeking help found lasting sobriety.

In 1947, a member of the editorial staff of the “Grapevine” authored the presently used “Grapevine Preamble.” It reads, in part, “Alcoholics Anonymous is a Fellowship of men and women who share their EXPERIENCE, STRENGTH AND HOPE with each other that they may solve their common problems and help others to recover from alcoholism.” Only those who had been blessed with a spiritual awakening as the result of the Steps were permitted to talk in the meetings. The newcomer listened to the EXPERIENCEof the recovered alcoholic (what they were like, what happened), the obvious STRENGTH AND POWER (and what they are like now) s/he had received as the result of having taken the Steps and the HOPE the recovered alcoholic had for his/her future, the future of our Fellowship and for the future of the newcomer. The newcomer could then take a look at what was required to recover and see the results in those who had achieved that goal. They could then decide if they were, in fact, willing to go to any length to survive.

With the initiation of discussion/participation meetings in the late 1960’s, the content of the meetings began to focus more and more on the experience of untreated alcoholics and even non-alcoholics. More and more, the topics of meetings were the problems unique to the person stating their personal problem rather than the common problems of alcoholics. There was less and less sharing of the strength of recovery as well and any hope for the future. The decrease in the effectiveness of the meetings was offset for a number of years by the great influx of persons referred to Alcoholics Anonymous by members of the treatment industry and the professionals who attempted to guide those who had come to them for help. In the format of these meetings, there was no longer a focus on the EXPERIENCE, STRENGTH AND HOPE from the recovered alcoholic based on their EXPERIENCE AND KNOWLEDGE of the Program of recovery. The result of which has been and continues to be a shrinking number of alcoholics who have approached Alcoholics Anonymous in hope of escaping death or permanent insanity by drinking being denied the information that is vital to survival.

The real underlying source of this tragic situation is weak and ineffective sponsorship. All too often, members of the Fellowship who are not drinking but have never attempted to take the Steps will assume the responsibility for the life of the innocent newcomer. They have no understanding of the simple but highly effective set of instructions for leading a newcomer to the Solution for all their problems as outlined in the Chapter, “Working With Others.”

Step Twelve reads, “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.”

In Step Twelve is stated the REAL PURPOSE of the Program of Alcoholics Anonymous; “Our REAL PURPOSE is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about us.” Within our REAL PURPOSE is our PRIMARY PURPOSE, “we tried to carry this message to alcoholics.” The question is, are we trying to carry this message in our meetings or are we feeding the misery?
Bill W. wrote,
“In the years ahead A.A. will, of course, make mistakes. Experience has taught us that we need have no fear of doing this, providing that we always remain willing to admit our faults and to correct them promptly. Our growth as individuals has depended upon this healthy process of trial and error. So will our growth as a fellowship.
Let us always remember that any society of men and women that cannot freely correct its own faults must surely fall into decay if not into collapse. Such is the universal penalty for the failure to go on growing. Just as each A.A. must continue to take his moral inventory and act upon it, so must our whole Society if we are to survive and if we are to serve usefully and well.” (A.A. Comes of Age, pg 231)

We now know what the problem is and we know what the solution is. Unfortunately, we have not remained willing to admit our faults and to correct them promptly. We have been and are plagued with large doses of apathy and complacency. The problem we are trying to live with is needlessly killing alcoholics. The solution promises recovery for those who are willing to follow the clear-cut directions in the Big Book. So, let’s make certain the ES&H we share is limited to the E&K of OUR Program of Recovery as is outlined in our Basic Text, “ALCOHLOLICS ANONYMOUS.”

Do you want to be a part of the problem or a part of the solution? Simple, but not easy; A price has to be paid.
Many discussion meetings are a lot of talk but recovery is a very short walk; the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, that is!

[saved1]

"Acceptance should never be an option, but a solution."

[saved1]

“We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.” The Big Book


When I first came into program and heard these words I couldn't grasp their meaning. Life baffled me. I had no idea who I was or what I was doing. I was completely in the grip of this disease. I felt like I was the disease. Why would God do anything for me?

Initially I thought these people were crazy and even worse off than I was. My opinion soon changed when I noticed wonderful differences between them and myself. They seemed calmer, verbalized their feelings more clearly, appeared to have their act together, and seemed to enjoy life. I was hooked! I wanted what they had. I finally wanted to want to live. I was drawn to those who demonstrated traits I wanted to have. I talked to them and listened when they shared. I asked them how to work the program and how to find my Higher Power. I started working the Steps. I began my search for a God I could relate to. I found online recovery loops and people who shared how they worked their program.

Then I had a crisis develop which almost overwhelmed me. Yet as I read the Big Book, I realized that the promises God had given to the other program people were given to me too. I had been so busy working this program that I needed to pause and examine all I had received. Yes, it does work when you work it. I proved it to myself by allowing God to prove it to me. :1:

One Day at a Time . . .
I will remember that the promises really are for everyone and that they come into my life as I work my program to the best of my ability.
~ Judith A.

[saved1]

“Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can't build on it; it’s only good for wallowing in.” Katherine Mansfield

Before I came into the program, I allowed fear to rule my life and prevent me from trying new things. I was absent from my own life. I was emotionally unavailable to my children and I stayed stuck in a deep hole of self-pity. I never really heard beautiful music or gloried in the miracles of nature. Although I had what people might perceive as a pretty normal life, it was actually an empty shell and I merely existed. I feel so saddened now at the thought of all the wasted years. I cannot bring them back, but I can learn from them.

When I came into the program and read the Promises in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, I realized that it was futile to regret the past or to shut the door on it. Those years and all the pain I went through are what made me the person I am today. I need to always remember where I came from, because if I don't, I can just as easily go back there. I can also use my experience to help others on this wonderful road to recovery. I am able to give away what has been given to me so freely, because it’s only then that I can keep what I have. :15:

One Day at a Time . . .
I must always remember where I came from so that I can help others in this program of recovery and keep myself from going back into the patterns of my past.

Sharon S.

[schell08122008]

Thanks Saved...I needed to hear this today...I actually called my old sponsor this morning...I basically told her I am hooked in the past , where I was in glorious sobriety for over 5 years with her challenging sponsorship...today I have many in the program who tell me I need to let go of that period and start my recovery to work the steps for today. Yes I agree I am stuck in the steps right now...I feel empty after 3 years..I get depressed and heady around my old anniversary date...I feel like a mess alot..anyway my old sponsor read the promises to me...like you said...we shall not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it...I can begin to do this..not necessary dwell on it..but use it to help others. Peace Schell

[saved1]

To quote Zig Ziglar, "People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily."

[MajestyJo]

“Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can't build on it; it’s only good for wallowing in.” Katherine Mansfield

Love the quote. Remember after coming into recovery, regretting that it took me so long to get there. They say if you don't feel remorse the next morning, perhaps you are not an alcoholic.

[saved1]

My life closed twice before its close.
Emily Dickinson

Doesn't every addict, sooner or later, face some kind of incomprehensible end to something they hold dear, all because of their addiction? :undecided:

I certainly did. In my late thirties, in the plum Ivy League job that was the envy of all those I'd gone to graduate school with, I was fired. The fact was, though I'd tried to put a good face on it, I was up to my eyebrows in my disease of compulsive behavior and was consequently seriously depressed. Or was I seriously depressed and consequently...?:162:

No matter. I had been in a hole the width and depth of which I could not overcome. Day after day I would sit in my office with the door closed, work piled on my desk, unable to make headway. I had done this for over a year. Then the ax fell, and there I was, a depressed, overweight workaholic without work.:frown:

Fortunately for me, by this time I had already found program, and although I was a newcomer of only six months, I knew enough that I was lucky to have lost my job. Although I would never have quit it, it would have eventually led to the loss of my health and sanity, what was left of them. I was in that important and prestigious job for all the wrong reasons, but mainly as a balm to my tiny and broken self-esteem.:idea:

The fact was, the healing for my self-loathing wasn't in a fancy title or professional honors. It was in the spiritual life and the recovery of mind, body, heart, and spirit that I found in program.:15:

I learned for myself that hitting bottom is not the end. I let my Higher Power into my life, and it was the beginning of a more honest and worthy way of living.:281:

One day at a time... . . .
I turn my life over to my Higher Power to make of it what thy will. It makes every day a good day.
~ Roberta ~ (share)

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If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14

A Time to Think
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.—Ralph Waldo Emerson :idea:

A Time to Act
Resolve not to magnify small problems.

A Time to Pray
Lord, grant me the wisdom to enjoy what I have.

[saved1]

1986 GENERAL SERVICE CONFERENCE CLOSING TALK
by Bob Pearson (SHARE PERSPECTIVE)

At the closing brunch on Saturday morning, Bob Pearson (G.S.O. senior adviser), who was retiring, gave a powerful and inspiring closing talk (excerpted below) to the 36th Conference.
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This is my 18th General Service Conference - the first two as a director of the Grapevine and A.A.W.S., followed by four as a general service trustee. In 1972, I rotated out completely, only to be called back two years later as general manager of G.S.O., the service job I held until late 1984. Since the 1985 International Convention, of course, I have been senior adviser. This is also my last Conference, so this is an emotionally charged experience.

I wish I had time to express my thanks to everyone to whom I am indebted for my sobriety and for the joyous life with which I have been blessed for the past nearly 25 years. But since this is obviously impossible, I will fall back on the Arab saying that Bill quoted in his last message, "I thank you for your lives." For without your lives, I most certainly would have no life at all, much less the incredibly rich life I have enjoyed.

Let me offer my thoughts about A.A.'s future. I have no truck with those bleeding deacons who decry every change and view the state of the Fellowship with pessimism and alarm. On the contrary, from my nearly quarter-century's perspective, I see A.A. as larger, healthier, more dynamic, faster growing, more global, more service-minded, more back-to-basics, and more spiritual - by far - than when I came through the doors of my first meeting in Greenwich, Connecticut, just one year after the famous Long Beach Convention. A.A. has flourished beyond the wildest dreams of founding members, though perhaps not of Bill himself, for he was truly visionary.

I echo those who feel that if this Fellowship ever falters or fails, it will not be because of any outside cause. No, it will not be because of:

treatment centers or
professionals in the field, or
non-Conference-approved literature, or
young people, or
the dually-addicted, or even
the "druggies" trying to come to our closed meetings.
If we stick close to our Traditions, Concepts, and Warranties, and if we keep an open mind and an open heart, we can deal with these and any other problems that we have or ever will have. If we ever falter and fail, it will be simply because of us. It will be because we can't control our own egos or get along well enough with each other. It will be because we have too much fear and rigidity and not enough trust and common sense.

If you were to ask me what is the greatest danger facing A.A. today, I would have to answer:

the growing rigidity;
the increasing demand for absolute answers to nit-picking questions;
pressure for G.S.O. to "enforce" our Traditions;
screening alcoholics at closed meetings;
prohibiting non-Conference-approved literature, i.e., "banning books";
laying more and more rules on groups and members.
And in this trend toward rigidity, we are drifting farther and farther away from our co-founders. Bill, in particular, must be spinning in his grave, for he was perhaps the most permissive person I ever met. :162::281:

Bob Pearson (senior adviser)

[saved1]

The excerpt are from various talks and articles by and on Bill Wilson, and were compiled by Jim Burwell. They reveal a wealth of the thinking and insight of the co-founder of A.A. (SHARE PERSPECTIVE)

Let's Ask Bill Wilson - Are Alcoholics "Neurotic?"
It is possible that about half our members, had they not been drinkers, would have appeared in ordinary life to be normal people. The other half would have appeared as more or less pronounced neurotics ( N.Y. State J. Med., Vol.44, Aug.1944)


How to Deal With a Neurotic Person
By Bridgett Michele Lawrence (SHARE PERSPECTIVE)

Most people are accused of displaying neurotic behavior at one time or another. But some people exhibit neurotic disorders that impact normal, everyday life. "Neurotic disorder" is a term used to describe a wide range of circumstances that cause a person to have an inability to adapt to a certain situation or environment. People with neurotic disorders exhibit symptoms such as anxiety, depression, extreme phobias and insecurity. Understanding these neurotic disorders is key to learning how to deal with a neurotic person.

How to Deal With a Neurotic Person
1
Be tolerant and patient. Remember that the neurotic behavior is most likely a coping mechanism that the person uses to deal with a much larger issue. Being impatient with a neurotic person will only cause strife and make the situation worse.

2
Don't be overly critical. In many cases, a neurotic person knows when
he/ she is being neurotic but is unable to change their behavior.
Many neurotic people are extremely self-critical already, so you don't need to be.

3
Give them space. If you find yourself in an argument with a neurotic person, it is futile to argue with them in the heat of the moment. In many cases, the argument stems from a larger issue about which you may know nothing. Wait until he/she has calmed down before approaching them about the situation. Discuss the issue in a calm tone, using language that is not offensive. For example, avoid calling him/her names or pointing out personal flaws that lead to the conflict. Instead, seek to find a compromise that will satisfy both parties.

4
Encourage them to seek help. Many people with neurotic personalities don't seek help because of embarrassment, pride, fear or the belief that no one will understand or be able to help. This could not be further from the truth. Help exists for those who seek it. Psychotherapy is the form of treatment used to help people overcome neurosis. Therapists encourage patients to discuss the situation that brings on neurotic behavior. With therapy, they can find the source of her problem and develop strategies to help them cope.


9Q - How do medicine and religion differ in their approach to the alcoholic?
9A - They differ in one respect. When the doctor has shown the alcoholic the underlying difficulties and has prescribed a program of readjustment, he says to him, "Now that you understand what is required for recovery, you should no longer depend on me. You must depend on yourself. You go do it."

Clearly, then, the objective of the doctor is to make the patient self-sufficient and largely, if not wholly, dependent upon himself.

Religion does not attempt this. It says that faith in self is not enough, even for a non-alcoholic. The clergyman says that we shall have to find and depend upon a Higher Power - God. He advises prayer and frankly recommends an attitude of unwavering reliance upon Him who presides over all. By this means we discover strength much beyond our own resources.

So, the main difference seems to add up to this: Medicine says, know yourself, be strong and you will be able to face life. Religion says, know thyself, ask God for power, and you will become truly free.

In Alcoholics Anonymous the new person may try either method. He sometimes eliminates "the spiritual angle" from the Twelve Steps to recovery and wholly relies upon honesty, tolerance and working with others. But it is interesting to note that faith always comes to those who try this simple approach with an open mind - and in the meantime they stay sober.

If, however, the spiritual content of the Twelve Steps is actively denied, they can seldom remain dry. That is our A.A. experience. We stress the spiritual simply because thousands of us have found we can't do without it. (N.Y. State 3. Med., Vol. 44, Aug. 15, 1944) :281:

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Everybody needs a little support. Teamwork allows us to reach goals we couldn’t reach on our own, and encourages us to appreciate the unique talents of others. Teamwork quotes remind you that the whole is often greater than the sum of its parts. Whether you’re collaborating with someone at work, a part of an athletic team, or working to let God into your life. :281:


* Tact is getting your point across without stabbing someone with it.:15:
- Guideposts reader Shirley Zieve, Sandy Springs, Georgia


* This is God’s work. It makes blisters and it makes sweat, but it’s worth my time and it’s worth your time....Working together as God’s people in the world—I don’t know of anything more rewarding.
- Millard Fuller, Founder of Habitat for Humanity

* The small, brave act of cooperating with another person, of choosing trust over cynicism, generosity over selfishness, makes brain cells light up with quiet joy.
- Dr. Gregory S. Berns, Professor at Emory University

* I was taught that the name on the front of your jersey was a lot more important than the name on the back.
- Ryne Sandberg, Former professional baseball player

* The greatness of a community is most accurately measured by the compassionate actions of its members.
- Coretta Scott King, Widow of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr..

* You’ll never catch me bragging about goals, but I’ll talk all you want about my assists.
- Wayne Gretzky, Former professional hockey player

* If we’re able to identify our own ignorance, we can identify someone else’s expertise. We learn how to listen to each other. And that is the foundation of human understanding.
- Ted Koppel, Journalist.

God will move mountains if you bring the shovel.
- Pat Irving, Guideposts reader, Lexington, Virginia

*Competing is hard work. Collaborating—racing your own race, together—can feel like flying.
- Robert K. Cooper, Author

*We knew what it was like to go without a lot of things, but we didn’t mind, because we were going without those things together.
- Ruth Riley, Professional basketball player


* To say, my fate is not tied to your fate, is like saying your end of the boat is sinking. :162:

- Hugh Downs, Veteran radio and television newsman

[saved1]

~Today's Spiritual Acronym~

IN
In Newness

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~This Week's Spiritual Affirmation~

*This week I will practice upon diligence. *:1:

In terms of this suggested practice we're not referring to an attitude of hyper-focusing, such as displayed in the workaholic as by way of example, or those who alot nearly all their time to but one particular aspect of their life.

The suggestion of practice herein is in regard of follow-through. And the diligent practice of finding -- and accepting -- balance in our life's endeavors so that follow-through in all we take upon ourselves may reach culmination.

There's a diligence needed in completing that which we've committed to in life, from work to family, to all other obligations whatever nature they may be of. And, a diligent attitude well practiced toward acquiring in not taking on more than we can follow-through to completion. We serve no one or no effort well if we most constantly leave endings undone.

If we continue to compile a mass of commitments upon ourselves, realizing there's simply not enough time on our life's calendar to follow-through with, in actuality we may be displaying more of a frivolous attitude in expecting others to fill-in the finishing of, than an honest attitude of declining that which is offered or asked of us knowing we're unlikely to complete the task or effort.

This can come from a want in being of service beyond our finite limitations, or born of vanity in desire of recognition in being all ... to all. Or, we may have the rather common character defect of accepting so much upon us that we know completion of most isn't a given, therefore neither is failure.

Rather than failure we can just lay claim to life putting too much upon us, minus acceptance of our responsibility in allocating our own life's calendar diligently.

Whatever the case may be, we firstly need to admit it to ourselves, accept it
for that which it is within us, then practice diligent change.

Well placed thoughts may be represented in listing our life's priorities, time needed, then accepting works of service or endeavor as we can reasonably expect to find the time for from start to finish, and graciously declining others if and when need be.

A diligent attitude is but a more honest attitude of balance in life attuned to our finite limits with follow-through and completion of commitments accepted.

As there are the demands of life, there are also the choices in life, and God can offer us guidance and direction in the diligence of balance therein toward fulfillment of all. :281:

© ~G.A. Hazelwood (SHARE)

[saved1]

Do we always try to treat each other with mutual respect and love?
Here are some proven ways that ensure we do.:1:
Pablo Cruise - Love Will Find A Way - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9sbA2gnWHI)
It is strange to think that many groups are hardly aware of the "TWELVE TRADITIONS" and their importance in keeping groups/members strong and united.:cool:

The traditions ground us from the destructive effects of dominance by individuals. They make us all equal, so we can work together in harmony to achieve our spiritual growth and understanding.

When each member of the group is familiar with the Traditions and help to make them work , We are safe from many of the hazards that beset people who come together for a particular purpose.

Conflicting views become merely differing views , so our problems can be solved with tolerant understanding and mutual respect.

Todays Reminder,

I will make it my business to familiarize myself with the twelve traditions so I can do my part toward promoting growth for the group and each member in it. http://www.dailyrecovery.net/trad.html

"Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends on unity." http://www.dailyrecovery.net/trad1.html

(Universal edited share-One day at a time in AL-anon)

*The 7th Step Prayer *
When ready, we say something like this: "My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen."

The Promises?
http://www.aasoberliving.com/BB/chapter_6.html#promises

Additional resources:

The Twelve Traditions illustrated.
http://aa.org/pdf/products/p-43_thetwelvetradiillustrated.pdf
TWELVE TRADITIONS CHECKLIST
http://www.barefootsworld.net/aatraditionchecklist.html#t1

The Twelve Concepts illustrated.
http://www.aa.org/pdf/products/p-8_thetwelveconetps.pdf
Concepts Checklist.
http://www.aa.org/subpage.cfm?page=188

In closing our Primary Goal.:85:
http://www.dailyrecovery.net/trad5.html

[MajestyJo]

Heard a friend share that she had to learn about the Traditions so she lived long enough to work the Steps. Many people don't realize that the same principles of the Traditions applies to us and our home, work, community, etc. as it does in the groups.

[saved1]

Freedom doesn’t mean the absence of all restrictions. It means possessing unshakable conviction in the face of any obstacle. This is true freedom. :281:

“The heart is what is important.” There is nothing more vulnerable, nothing more corruptible than the human mind; nor is there anything as powerful, steadfast and ennobling.

Whatever your circumstances, whatever your past, the forces that determine your future are nowhere but within your own heart and mind. It is here that the star of your destiny shines.

“What kind of future do I envision for myself? What kind of self am I trying to develop? What do I want to accomplish in my life?” The thing is to paint this vision of your life in your heart as specifically as possible. That “painting” itself becomes the design of your future. The power of the heart enables us to actually create with our lives a wonderful masterpiece in accordance with that design.
Daisaku Ikeda

[saved1]

Throughout this month, which brings us to the closing of another year.
I will review the happenings of my life as though I were standing just a little way off trying to see myself as another person.:281:

Have I made progress in my effort to correct my faulty attitude?
Have I let discouragement plunge me back into my old habit patterns?
When something I did had consequences that made life difficult for me, did I try to blame someone else?

How has my program helped me to realize some of my potential as a person?

Today's Reminder:
As I look back over this year, I will consider calmly my actions and attitudes, just as though I were evaluating the progress of someone else.
I will not make it an occasion for guilt and regret.
I will blame no one else for anything that happened, for I have learned that I am not a judge of others.
This day, and the days to come, will be filled with opportunities to make more of myself.

"The purpose of my inventory is to get a clear picture of where I now stand, to recognize shortcomings that still need to be corrected, and not to use any self-deceiving means of justifying them."
(one day at a time in alanon)

*Questions one may have per Step. :1:

Step 1,Have you seriously damaged your relationships with other people because of your addictive behaviors? If so, list the relationships and how you damaged them.
Step 1,If other people have told you how you how your have hurt them, then write down what they said.
Step 1,Describe any missed appointments that resulted from your addictive behaviors.
Step 1,Describe any memory lapses where you cannot account for where you were.
Step 1,Describe any times that you cannot recall how you got home.
Step 1,Describe times and ways that you have significantly neglected or damaged relationships with your loved ones in order to indulge in your addictive behaviors or because you were recovering from your addictive behaviors.
Step 1,Describe any illnesses that have resulted from your addictive behaviors.
Step 1,If your addictive behavior contributed to excessive spending, describe the situations and why you did it.
Step 1,Describe times that you have withdrawn from social interaction and isolated yourself to an extreme degree and why.
Step 1,Describe incidents where you expressed inappropriate anger towards other people.
Step 1,Describe embarrassing or humiliating incidents in your life. Were they related to your addictive behaviors? If so, how were they related?
Step 1,Describe attempts that you have made in the past to control your addictive behaviors.How successful have they been? Do these attempts show the powerlessness that you have over your addictive behaviors?
Step 1,Do you feel any remorse from the ways that you have acted in your life? If so, explain that in detail.
Step 1,Describe any irrational or crazy set of events that have happened since you began you addictive behavior. Did you rationalize this behavior? If so, in what way?
Step 1,Have you avoided people because they did not share in or approve of your addictive behavior? If so, list these people and situations.
Step 1,Describe any dreams that you have had that exhibit the unmanageability or chaos of your life.
Step 1,Can you pinpoint one time period in your life when your life began to become extremely unmanageable? If so, describe that period of time and what was happening.
Step 1,Is there one incident or insight that made you realize that your life was unmanageable? If so, describe it in detail.
Step 1,How would you summarize the powerlessness and unmanageability of your life in the face of your addiction?


Step 2,What was the religion that your family of origin practiced or claimed to be a part of?
Step 2,List the positive and negative aspects as you see it of your family’s religion.
Step 2,Have you made a break with your family's religion or have you stayed with it? Explain why you have taken your particular course of action.
Step 2,What other people have helped you to see the unmanageability of your life? Do they believe in a Higher Power and if so describe their belief as far as you know of it.
Step 2,Recall some of your best friends from childhood or adolescence. Describe what you liked best about them and what they liked best about you? Do you think that these qualities have any relationship to a Higher Power? Explain.
Step 2,From the following list of groups, write Yes or No according to whether you could share in their values or not - Twelve Step Group, Conservative Christian church, Liberal Christian church, Synagogue, Mosque, Hindu temple group, Buddhist temple group, Unitarian church, Non-religious ethical organization, Activist Humanitarian group (a.g. Amnesty Intl), Environmental Organization (e.g., Sierra Club)
Step 2,Describe events, situations or people who have helped you to understand what a "Higher Power" or God is all about.
Step 2,Describe any dreams that you have had about a "Higher Power" or God, and what they mean to you.
Step 2,What have been your previous experiences with religion? How do think that this does or does not relate to your experience with God as you understand God.


Step 3,What are your greatest fears about giving up control over your life to God as you understand God?
Step 3,What things, people or circumstances have you tried to control in the past and how has that turned out? Do you think that God will be able to handle your life better than you have?
Step 3,How do you feel in general about turning your life over to God?
Step 3,In what ways will you keep up the process of turning your life over to God? Possibilities include going to religious services, 12 Step meetings, meeting with others in recovery, writing a journal, service to others, meditation, reading, physical exercise, contacting your sponsor or engaging in therapy.
Step 3,How would you answer the question "Who am I"?
Step 3,How would you answer the question "Who is God"? In other words, describe God as you understand God.
Step 3,Describe who or what you trust and to what degree.
Step 3,In what do you find meaning now or think that you can find meaning in the future?
Step 3,How do you think that you should live your life after giving your life over to the care of God as you understand God? What changes do you expect to make and how will this look in specific detail?
Step 3,How do you plan to celebrate or honor this step of turning your life over to the care of God?
Step 3,Describe any celebration or honoring activity that you have actually made in turning your life over to the care of God.


Step 4,Have you had any broken relationships? If so, describe them and how they hurt others or yourself. Describe any grudges, anger or resentment that you have over these relationships.
Step 4,Have you ever felt self-righteous? Explain when and the circumstances. Was this justified? Elaborate.
Step 4,What events or triggers have caused you to begin your addictive behaviors in the past? Describe situations, feelings, events, food or people that you seem to be a part of your life just before or during your addictive behaviors.
Step 4,Have you ever held a grudge? Did you try to get revenge? If so, explain the situation and how it played out, including whether or not someone else was hurt.
Step 4,Describe times that you have been oversensitive. Did this ever damage your relationship with others, or were you just trying to keep your own boundaries?
Step 4,Describe the faults that you most detest in others. Do you have any of these traits yourself?
Step 4,Determine whether any of the following traits are those that you despise in others. Write about whether you see these traits in yourself - Selfishness, Greediness, Cowardice, Snobbishness, Dishonesty, Sarcastic, Fearfulness, Hypercritical, Controlling, Gossipping, Manipulative, Tightwad, Intimidating, Harsh, Power-hungry, Unforgiving, Possessive, Verbally abusive, Prejudiced, Physically abusive, Overly dependent, Sexually abusive, Procrastinating, Impatient, Judgmental, Adulterous, Preoccupied, Sneakiness, Lying, Ungrateful, Cheating, Cynical, Intolerant, Bitterness, Self-Pitying, Full of Rage, Jealous, Envious, Insecure
Step 4,Have you failed to do things that you KNOW that you should have done? If so, then explain in detail.
Step 4,What are your fears? How have they caused you difficulty in your life?
Step 4,Describe your relationship with your friends, co-workers or neighbors. Is there something that you wish that you could do over again? If so, explain in detail.
Step 4,Describe your relationships with your family of origin. Do you have conflicts with any siblings or with your parents? Are you avoiding these matters in your family?
Step 4,Describe the earliest memories of your life. Did you share a similar personality with those in your family or were they very different than you? Do you think that these similarities o differences caused problems in your life? If so, explain.
Step 4,If you were to describe your family's major themes, what would they be?
Step 4,Describe your relationships with your nuclear family (spouse and children) if that is different now from your family of origin. Is there anything that you wish that you could erase from this part of your life?
Step 4,Describe in detail any major experiences in your life that you believe changed your life forever afterwards (good or bad).
Step 4,What decisions have you made in your life that made a significant impact on your life? How did you go about making those decisions?
Step 4,How much of your life have you used up already? If you drew a time line of your life, where would you be now?
Step 4,Put your major experiences and major decisions on a timeline. Is there a pattern of any kind?
Step 4,What are you most ashamed of in your life?
Step 4,Do you see any patterns in your addictive behaviors? If so, explain them in detail.
Step 4,What have you done to cover and conceal your addictive behaviors? What other deceptions did this lead to?
Step 4,What kind of personality do you exhibit at home? At school? At work? When no-one is around?
Step 4,What is so shameful in your life that you would not want to tell anyone? Who would you hurt if you told this?
Step 4,Write a summary of the highlights of your fourth step.
Step 4,How would you like to share your fourth step summary? What details would you like to make sure that are known? Write these details down in your summary and prepare the summary for presentation in your fifth step.
Step 4,Describe any celebrations or honoring activities that you hae done to honor the completion of your 4th step.


Step 5,After working through the fourth step questions, what do you realize about your limitations and capabilities?
Step 5,Describe any person who has helped you to see yourself more clearly and objectively in your process of recovery and of life.
Step 5,What qualities would you like to have in a sponsor? How do the people in the list of possible sponsors measure up to these criteria?
Step 5,Write down the names of the most trustworthy people that you know. Do you think that they would be willing or interested in being a sponsor for you?
Step 5,Describe your feelings and expectations about sharing your fifth step with your sponsor.
Step 5,List people that you can think of that you might share your story with. Write whether you think that they are a safe, risky or a bad choice to work your 5th step with.
Step 5,Describe who you have chosen to be your sponsor and how they reacted when you approached them.
Step 5,Describe what it was like in sharing the fifth step. How did you feel before, after and during the process? Are you glad that you have done this?
Step 5,Describe any celebrations or activities that you have done in honor of completing the fifth step.


Step 6,Do you have any fairy tales or myths that you feel a special affinity with? Why?
Step 6,Describe situations and events where you have been full of pride. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you?
Step 6,Describe the kind of activities do you really enjoy (of course, NOT your addictive behavior).
Step 6,What are some healthy eating or exercise habits that you could start?
Step 6,What are some unhealthy eating habits that you could give up?
Step 6,Describe some secret GOOD deeds that you have done or would like to do.
Step 6,Describe situations and events where you have been greedy, oerly needy or materialistic. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to give these attitudes over to the care of God?


Step 6,Describe situations and events where you have given in to lust without regard for others or any morality. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to give these lustful feelings over to the power of God?
Step 6,Describe situations and events where you have been dishonest. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to depend upon God to keep you from dishonesty?
Step 6,Describe situations and events where you have given into excessive eating, drinking, shopping or covetousness. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to let God take control of these behaviors and attitudes?
Step 6,Describe situations and events where you have been very envious or jealous of others. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are your ready to turn these situations over to God?
Step 6,Describe situations and events where you have avoided responsibility for your actions or lack of actions. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to allow God to help you take responsibility for your actions?
Step 6,List your major defects of character.
Step 6,What do you plan to do when these major defects of character begin to become evident? List each defect individually along with the proposed preventative behavior and how you will allow God to help you in your battle against these defects.


Step 7,What defects will be most difficult to give up? In what order to you plan to give them up?
Step 7,What kind of situations, stressors or pressures cause you to regress back into your defects of character? What can you do to lessen the likelihood of that stress occurring?
Step 7,Where do you feel most supported and helped in your strivings for recovery?
Step 7,What makes you lose hope? Can you avoid such situations? If so, then how?
Step 7,What (person, situation, event, thought) restores your hope? Is there a way to maximize those influences? If so, then how?
Step 7,What would you like to recapture in your life?
Step 7,Describe in detail what you think that your life will be like with your defects of character removed from you.
Step 7,What are you grateful for?
Step 7,When do you think that life has been especially good for you? When did you have the greatest joy?
Step 7,Describe your typical day's activities in terms of how much time you spend on each type of activity.
Step 7,Describe your typical day's activities if you knew that you had only one year to live.
Step 7,Have you made the correct decisions about how to spend time with loved ones, in solitude and with your discretionary time? If not, how would you like to change it?
Step 7,What would you do if you were granted three wishes?
Step 7,What do you think that you can do to leave the world a better place and accomplish your mission in life?


Step 8,How have you hurt yourself by practicing your addiction?
Step 8,What important relationships did you destroy or damage because of your addictive behaviors?
Step 8,How much time and energy have you lost from your addictive behaviors? What do you think you would have done or become had it not been for your addictive behaviors?
Step 8,Make a list of all those that you have possibly harmed by your addictive behaviors. List the effect on them as individuals and on your relationship.
Step 8,Take the list of people that you have harmed and make a list of possible amends for each one of them.
Step 8,From the list of possible amends, choose the ones that seem most appropriate, and mark them according to level of difficulty.
Step 8,What consequences do you fear in making amends? What is the worst thing that can happen? What is the best thing that can happen? What is likely to happen?
Step 8,Do you feel angry or resentful towards any people on your amends list? If so, write them a letter of anger, but don't send it to them. Describe here any other ways that you have used to get rid of the anger and resentment towards anyone on your list.
Step 8,Describe any dreams that relate to making amends to others.


Step 9,What amends do you think that you have already made? These can include apologies already made, helpful tasks for those that you have hurt, changed attitudes and so forth.
Step 9,From your list of amends, if there are apologies that you need to make, write them down here first.
Step 9,Read your apologies to a friend or a sponsor and ask them if it sounds sincere or if it sounds defensive or like an attack on the other person. Record here what response they have about them.
Step 9,Role play with your sponsor or friends for anything that you are going to say when making amends. Record here how these practice sessions went and what you learned.
Step 9,After you have had your first encounter with making amends, record what happened here. How did you feel about it? How did the other person respond? What have you learned from this? What would you do differently next time?
Step 9,After you have done your first several encounters for making amends (for example, after 5 times of making amends), record your overall impressions here. Is there anything common? Has anything surprised you? Has anything disappointed you?
Step 9,How do you feel about the process of making amends and how has it affected you?
Step 9,What amends do you have the most difficulty making? What do you need to do to be able to make these amends?
Step 9,How has making amends affected your relationship with others?
Step 9,How are you dealing with the feedback from others after making amends? How are you feeling? How are you dealing with the desire to defend yourself?
Step 9,Write down any other amends that you found that you needed to make after starting the process of making amends.
Step 9,How can you celebrate or honor the completion of your making amends (step 9)?
Step 9,Have you had any dreams about making amends? If so, describe them in detail.
Step 9,Describe any celebrations or activities that you have done to honor the completion of your making amends.


Step 10,What is your plan to allow time for reflection each day?
Step 10,What new behaviors would you like to try to make your program more effective? How would you go about implementing these?
Step 10,What kind of behaviors and attitudes do you need to be most vigilant against to keep from your addictive behaviors?
Step 10,What are your triggers for addictive behavior? How can you guard against them or prepare for them?
Step 10,What are some amends or remedies that you should make when you find out that you are wrong?


Step 11,Can you recall anytime that your life was heading in the wrong direction? If so, what brought you back? Describe this in detail.
Step 11,How would you describe your beliefs about God and a Higher Power to a child?
Step 11,What are your favorite sources of wisdom and knowledge abot healthy values?
Step 11,Has anything you ever read convinced you to change in some fundamental or deep way?
Step 11,If you were stranded on a desert island with only one book, which book would you take? Why?
Step 11,If you had only one week to live and unlimited resources, who would you gather around you and how would you pass the time?
Step 11,Write out a complete form of what you would like your obituary to say.
Step 11,What do you believe will happen to you after you die?


Step 12,Have you been able to reach out to another recovering addict? If so, describe the situation and how it feels to you.
Step 12,What kind of approach would you like to have had when you first started the program? How can you implement that type of approach in your life to others now?
Step 12,What you say if someone asked how the 12 Step program has worked for you?
Step 12,How do you usually handle conflict? Do you know of any way to be more effective in conflict resolution? If so, how would you become more effective? What would be the steps?
Step 12,How much time do you want to and are able to allow for working with others on their program? How will you go about setting that time aside?
Step 12,What outside resources can you call on when you need help as a sponsor?
Step 12,How do you know if you are suited to helping another person work a 12 Step program?
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[saved1]

When were at a meeting, the ideas at times seem so clear to us that we never doubt we can apply them to our daily living.:15:

But alas, the old thinking patterns take over and we have what corresponds in A.A. to a "SLIP" or a relapse. :embarrassed:This is no reason to be discouraged.:cool:

If I look back on my pre-recovery attitude, I can remember how much I learned, and how much of it I do remember to use in dealing with all of my affairs.:162:

Perfect mastery is too much for me to expect of myself; I will be patient.:1:

Todays Reminder;
If it isn't east for me to "see myself as others see me" and recognize how much progress I have made, all I need to do is to observe the improvements in the others in my group.
Even some that appeared to have "Hopeless" problems make great strides in learning to detach from the harrowing episodes.
They recognize that their thinking and their actions were not always sane either.
They use the complete recovery program to restore themselves to a reasonable and serene frame of mind.

A recovery program doesn't produce miracles overnight, but when one has the ability to look back, with a open mind, we realize that a miracle is in the process of taking place.:281:

(Universal Share-edit) One day at a time in Al-Anon.

[saved1]

More than two thousand years ago an ancient philosopher wrote some words of wisdom whose central ideas seem strangely modern to us who study the twelve steps. They concern the errors we humans, since the beginning of time,seem to fall into:

A person is not complete who believes that their advancement depends on crushing others- Or who worries about matters that cannot be altered- Or who insists that a thing is impossible because they have been unable to do it.

That person is short of WISDOM who cannot put aside their ordinary routine in order to refresh their mind with rest, change and meditation.

They need much help who thinks they can compel others to do what seems right to them.

Todays Reminder:

Words of wisdom inspire us, but they have value only if we can take them into our hearts and use them in our daily lives.

The basic truths which are placed before us have immeasurable power to help one. :281:

(Universal-Share, edit) One day at time in Al-Anon.

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For many the story starts here.
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Then may end up here.
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Then we add some stink-in think-in.
Eric Clapton & J.J. Cale- Danger - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V6HoUYFbQTU)
*AND YOU HAVE ARRIVED.*:cry:
Sooner or later, most end here. *(If they are lucky!)*:eek:
*Arrestees Show High Rate.
From Buddy T, your Guide to Alcoholism
See details in our top article below.

Arrestees Show High Rate of Drug Use
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Tips For Cutting Down
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If you are currently drinking more than the recommended guidelines, any change that you make, even small changes, can help you reduce the harm that alcohol can cause. Here are some tips that may be helpful. Read more
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*Note:Usually the abstinent approach is the best answer.*:281:

Common Traits of Adult Children of Alcoholics
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Years before Dr. Jan G. Woititz wrote the book "Adult Children of Alcoholics," Tony's list described other characteristics that seem to be common for those who raised in dysfunctional homes.. Read more
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But,alas, many do not really get it until this becomes their song.:sad:
Eric Clapton & J.J. Cale- Sporting Life Blues - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6cQDYbOPyU&feature=related)

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"A life lived in fear is a life half-lived."
Tara Morice as Fran,
(From Baz Luhrmann's film "Strictly Ballroom")

When I first saw this movie in 1993, it spoke volumes to my life and to my recovery. I had spent my life afraid, afraid of everything and everybody. If I crossed you, I feared your wrath. If I disappointed you, I dreaded the loss of your love. If things were going well, I wondered, often aloud, when the other shoe was going to drop. I had nowhere to go, no one to trust, nothing I could believe in, because I knew it would be taken away from me. The only safe haven I had was in my addiction, but little thought of the consequences. The biggest thing that kept me in my disease was the fear of what might be on the other side.

The bravest thing I ever did was walk through the doors of my first program meeting. I had been shamed into it by a therapist, but once I got there I sensed that my fears would be vanquished. I saw people who had been there, done that, and designed the t-shirt of fear that I was wearing. They showed me, through the Steps and Traditions, that there was more to life.

The program of recovery has taught me that a life of fear indeed is a life half-lived. Living in fear, I only succeeded in quashing the joy, the adventure, the zest for life that was naturally planted in me. It also eliminated the biggest fear ... that of a Higher Power. It has given me faith, the diametric opposite of fear. Faith shined its light on the darkness of my life, and allowed me to live a fuller existence that cannot be taken from me, save for retreat into fearful despair. I am so immensely grateful for what I have been given: life, instead of mere existence. :255:

One Day at a Time . . .
Faith in a Power greater than myself is a powerful antidote to a fearful, half-lived life. I pray to keep the light of faith shining brightly in my life.
Mark

(SHARE) MEDITATION PERSPECTIVE. :281:

[MajestyJo]

10 AA's - A Poem

10 Alcoholics, all in a line,
One got to thinking---
Then there were Nine.

9 Alcoholics, one said, "Wait!"
"A near beer can't hurt!"---
Then there were eight.

8 Alcoholics, lookin' up to heaven.
One cut out meetings---
Then there were seven.

7 Alcoholics, doing service for kicks.
One started grumbling---
Then there were six.

6 Alcoholics, glad to be alive.
'til one smoked pot---
Then there were five.

5 Alcoholics, greeters at the door
One played the Big Shot---
Then there were four.

4 Alcoholics, for fun and for free.
One's case was "different"---
Then there were three.

3 Alcoholics, knowing what to do.
One rewrote the Big Book---
Then there were two.

2 Alcoholics, having some fun.
One started lying(or never stopped)---
Then there was one.

1 Alcoholic, talking to HP
"If only one is sober ---
I'm glad that it's me!"

"Anonymous"

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Presented at
The First International Conference of Alcoholics Anonymous
July 28 - 30, 1950 at Cleveland, Ohio

In Memoriam
Dr. Robert Holbrook Smith
August 8, 1879 - November 16, 1950
Co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous

"My good friends in AA and of AA. I feel I would be very remiss if I didn't take this opportunity to welcome you here to Cleveland not only to this meeting but those that have already transpired. I hope very much that the presence of so many people and the words that you have heard will prove an inspiration to you - not only to you, but may you be able to impart that inspiration to the boys and girls back home who were not fortunate enough to be able to come. In other words, we hope that your visit here has been both enjoyable and profitable."

"I get a big thrill out of looking over a vast sea of faces like this with a feeling that possibly some small thing that I did a number of years ago, played an infinitely small part in making this meeting possible. I also get quite a thrill when I think that we all had the same problem. We all did the same things. We all get the same results in proportion to our zeal and enthusiasm and stick-to-itiveness. If you will pardon the injection of a personal note at this time, let me say that I have been in bed five of the last seven months and my strength hasn't returned as I would like, so my remarks of necessity will be very brief.

"But there are two or three things that flashed into my mind on which it would be fitting to lay a little emphasis; one is the simplicity of our Program. Let's not louse it all up with Freudian complexes and things that are interesting to the scientific mind, but have very little to do with our actual AA work. Our 12 Steps, when simmered down to the last, resolve themselves into the words love and service. We understand what love is and we understand what service is. So let's bear those two things in mind.

"Let us also remember to guard that erring member - the tongue, and if we must use it, let's use it with kindness and consideration and tolerance."

"And one more thing; none of us would be here today if somebody hadn't taken time to explain things to us, to give us a little pat on the back, to take us to a meeting or two, to have done numerous little kind and thoughtful acts in our behalf. So let us never get the degree of smug complacency so that we're not willing to extend or attempt to, that help which has been so beneficial to us, to our less fortunate brothers. Thank you very much."

Dr. Bob's Play
The following is the last portion only of a current (2002) play about Dr. Bob Smith, received from Barefoot Bill L., another "Barefoot" old-timer and friend.

It is performed by Bill McN., known also by his performance of "Moments: An Evening With Bill Wilson". The Dr. Bob play has only been performed a few times and is a must see. The play comes from the idea that Dr. Bob gets one last chance to say whatever he would want before his passing away (since his last talk, which was at the 1st International Convention of AA in 1950 in Cleveland, was only a few minutes long due to his illness).

Here is the ending which was requested from the performer. Please note that the conclusions, with poetic license, are Bill McN's assumptions of what Dr. Bob said in his final years. Also, Angel Anon is something he has played around with for the last 10 years beginning with a concept of self-less helpfulness that centered around an earlier idea he had called "Angels Anonymous". Enjoy! --- Love and Peace, Barefoot
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Dr. Bob's Play
Final Act
Since Anne's passing and with my own failing health, I've been isolated and given plenty of time to gather my thoughts... to make some sense out of a disordered life. Now, the benefits of prayer and meditation have become immeasurable. During this process, using the Absolute of Love that I mentioned previously, I have gained a new insight that I would like to share with you. But first, let me state most emphatically that this is my insight. If you want one yourself, follow the process.

What process? Well the answer is pure and it is simple ... on a regular basis, seek through prayer and meditation to improve your relationship with your understood God, asking only for wisdom, courage and strength to carry out His will for you ... when known.

I have come to believe that I am made in the image of God. That image is at the very center of my being and resides inside the smallest atom, or particle of atom, that was my beginning. I call it my angel ... my angel anon ... most often unknown to me, but known always by God. It was formed by God's idea of me, and it is eternally good. It is a piece of God and it resembles Him.

I have been formed around that image and over the years, and through the circumstances I have shared with you in my story, I forgot that it was there. Again, it is the image of God; God's idea of me and placed there at the instant of my conception. This is true of every human being that was ever born and truer still for all that will come after you and I have long since gone.

As an infant this goodness is recognizable by those who choose to look for it and it can, and will bring out the goodness in them. It is called unconditional love ... total acceptance. A child for its mother and the mother's love for the child is the best example. Unearned, open and unconditional ... absolute ... it flows and animates the whole relationship.

And then, for reasons that are too many to list, the love gets distorted, clouded, and survival begins to take over. I began to see "through a glass darkly". I lost that joyous spontaneity that makes up the young child and I became fearful ... the kind of fear that transcended all the love I contained.

I wish I could remember when that fear began. Was it separation, a smack on the bottom to put me back in line, a disappointment, or someone's failure to fulfill a promise? Was it some overheard comment that slighted me and, worst of all, I found believable? I don't think I will ever know... and in all honesty, is it that important? What I do know is that I have to let that fear go if I am ever to find happiness and peace of mind.

But how, how do I do it?

Well, the answers are again just as pure as they are simple. First and foremost, I must stay sober. Then I must try to help others get sober. I must consistently ask for God's assistance in those two endeavors and accept his will for all of us ... not just me, but for all of us. I must practice love through an open and expressive attitude of gratitude for the benefits that have been given to me. I must witness to God's love and kindness in my own living experiences. I must give of myself ... mind, body and soul, on those occasions when the need is made obvious. I must be willing to accept that my help may not be welcomed and my efforts may go unappreciated.

I must walk humbly in the presence of my God knowing that "Of myself, I am nothing, all that I am comes from my Heavenly Father." I must continually let loose that little angel inside of me, that angel anon, the better side of my nature, through acts of spontaneous generosity to those that need it, and finally I must act with faith so that more faith will be given me.

And who said there are no musts in AA? My only regret is that I had to wait for so long to learn these simple lessons. I pray they come sooner for you ... remember; all you have to do is practice.

Finale: A voice is heard ...

When it was certain that Bob would not survive his illness, close friends approached him to ask his permission to build a monument to his and Anne's memory. Bob was humbled by their request but he declined, asking only to be "buried like other folks." So, as he wished, on a slight rise overlooking Akron's Mt. Peace cemetery, there's a simple headstone marked SMITH. This is Bob and Anne's place of rest.

Article 27 The Books and Materials Early AAs Read

Dr. Bob and everyone that knew him well in the early A.A. days spoke of the ... of reading he did. He read the Bible through three times and studied it daily. ... home of Dr. Bob's daughter, Sue Smith Windows, in Akron; and he saw them in the ...
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Some little known facts. :cool:

"It is not well known that Dr. Bob was a Mason. Suspended in 1934, he gained reinstatement after being sober for some years. According to John Weldon, “The truth is that Masonry is a distinct religion that espouses teachings incompatible with Christian faith in the areas of God, salvation, and other important doctrines.”

Interestingly, the description of the Mason god, the Great Architect, is similar to the higher power worshiped in Alcoholics Anonymous. Masonic researcher Carl H. Claudy notes, “Masonry does not specify any god or creed; she requires merely that you believe in some Deity, give him what name you will…. A belief in God is essential to a Mason but…any God will do…” :162:

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