new to this, trying to sober

[awlgrip]

:-\trying to sober, but only last for 4 days, than back to bud light. need help with this, can't do it alone. don't like the meetings ive gone too, so far. need a friend to help me.

[newlife89]

I am Kialey and i am nineteen years old. I know i am young but i have been listening alot to people who have much more experience than i do and i think that is what has been helping me so much. I havnt been since thirteen more than a month sober so i have had some time with my disease so far.
I am also new to this whole sober thing. I know how it feels I myself am on day five today tommarrow will be six. I have tried several other times to get sober without going to meetings. It didnt work and god willing i am still making myself go to one everyday. I cannot and will not do this alone. No one can. I know that for the most part I didnt like going to meetings because i didnt like what i was hearing and wasnt ready to listen. In the begging stages of gaining sobriety it is crucial you listen to people with experience. As many people say if it worked for them it may work for you. Major note dont give up if you truly want sobriety you will receive it i know that it is hard so keep pushing but as todays aa thought of the day said "Some of us go back to dirinking a time or two to get a real foothold on sobriety. If it happens to you do not dispair. Many of us have done this and have finally come back to sucessful sobriety. Try to remember alchoholism is a desiese that comes with relapse. Recovery can still follow. Just know you are not alone. I have been meeting shopping everyday and i still dont have one that i really like. If you ever need to talk to anyone. Dont be shy to write back. I will help you along with me on my journey. God bless.
Kialey

[susan]

The awesome thing about this program is you don't have to do it alone. You only have to do it one day at a time. Sometimes you break that down and take it an hour at a time. Don't know where you leave or if there are AA meetings around there, but all I know is Get to a meeting, Get a sponsor and read the Big Book.

I have 10 months sober and there have been ups and downs, but learning to do it one day at a time. I too hated going into those rooms and sometimes I thought they were readying my mind and others I hated what they were saying. So.... I listened and talked with my sponsor, have even thrown a little temper tantrum (it is fair crap) but am still sober. There are no pad answers but reading the Big Book and re-reading the Big Book helps. Study the Big Book.

Hang in there!

A sober friend
Susan

[tracyg]

This is my first time here. I can be a friend to you. The one thing we have in common is that we want to make a change, but for whatever reason, we hang on to this behavior that we regret. Perhaps understanding the reason we do it would help to stop? Anyway, I am 40 yrs old and got drunk for the first time at age 13. I have used alcohol in varying degrees all of these years with very little clean time. I would appreciate anyone's insight.

[Laurenrich777]

Trust me, you can get through this if you work the program. I only have 34 days in the program but already the cravings are starting to let go a bit and I cannot tell you how much better you are going to feel after a month without drinking.
You will get there. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

[1day2day]

this is my 6th time through the program. So its safe to say I am an expert at quitting :P
Look, I've got almost 6 months this time, and going to a meeting basically everyday, working the steps, and meeting regularly with a sponsor. Don't know if its the combination, or just one thing that is helping me, but whatever it is, it's working.
I feel better now than I have in a long, long time.
Sometimes the meetings suck. Sometimes, you here the most bogus crap in there, and think, "Uh, okay, this guy is a mental case" which they probably are. But hey, we're all a little that way from time to time.

I can't give any advice that is worthwhile. You'll hear go to 90 meetings in 90 days, look for the similarities and not the differences, change your people, places nad playgrounds, etc. etc.

All that stuff is worthwhile. All of it is of little use if you are not convinced you are alcoholic, and are not convinced you have to stop drinking.

good luck!

[angussdundee]

Hi 1day2day

Thank you for dropping in here to share a little about yourself. Just like any AA group this one also needs newcomers and I'd like to welcome you.
I can add another well worn 'cliche' to those you've already listed - "it works if you work it"... :D
Like yourself, I couldn't quite explain it but when I took this thing seriously enough to attend regular meetings, searched out a sponsor who knew how this thing works (no bull!!!) and shared honestly on a regular basis with that sponsor; whatever it was, something started to change....Me!
I've since been to many AA meetings where my tolerance was tested by some individual going on about something or other but the less it affects me the more I must be learning about patience, kindness, tolerance and love and that's progress.

Try running this past your sponsor to see if he agrees- 'The essence of recovery in Alcoholics Anonymous is not so much the helpful and comforting fellowship, but the discipline of working the steps and collaborating with a sponsor who knows his way around those steps'.

All the best,

Anguss.

[1day2day]

Hey Anguss. Thanks for your note. First off, you have the coolest name ever. Second, its good to hear from someone in recovery at any time.

Working the steps have changed my life, especially in the sense of my outlook on my day. Its not that I have repaired the damage of the past, or immediately jump into the "solution" when I encounter problems. But having a plan of action and working it to the best of my current ability has enabled me to stay sober these past few months. I know its not me, because there is a key difference. In the past I have gone months without drinking, but felt terrible, wound tight, angry, depressed... ready to come out of my skin at a moments notice. This is the place where I am really just looking for a reason (opportunity) to drink again. I thought the obsession had been removed at that time because I wasn't craving alcohol in a literal sense. But as I failed to really recover, my cunning condition simply lied in wait, ready for the moment when it could take the stage again.

Peace of mind, peace with others, and knowing I am loved by an Almighty God are the personal benefits of actually WORKING the steps.

[alfee]

Keep Coming Back... those were the words that rang the loudest to me in the meeting rooms... i never heard anyone say come back when you are serious... they just kept saying keep coming back... i relapsed for 18 years many many times... i finally was ready to go to any lengths for sobriety and thats when everything took off like a rocket... my sobriety is the one most important thing to me today... without it, all is lost... glad you're all here.