fears

[tlrgs]

what do you fear the most about not drinking.

the pro's and con's

this will help us all understand alot more about ourselfs.

so is anyone up to the challenge

[Carol87]

Today, the biggest concern I have is that if I don't work my program, I risk drinking again ...

[angussdundee]

This is a great question, it's one that I have been asked before and my answer is always the same;

What always helps when confronted by fear and darkness is to flood your life with light. And it always helps if you don't take those first uncertain steps alone, but with a qualified councilor or with an experienced AA sponsor. It's just not enough to stop drinking or drugging. We need to develop the skills that will help us to stop and to stay stopped without chemical assistance.
Because of fear, we leaned on these crutches to solve just about everything from enduring our jobs, our relationships, to alter our thinking, to forget the night before and the total mess our lives were in etc.
So, it's hardly surprising that we suffer from chronic fear at the very thought of trying to live our lives without our favorite substances and thats where AA, home group and sponsor come in, to flood our new world with light.
Keep going to meetings, get involved with a group and do as your sponsor suggests re the steps.
Your new world will gradually become brighter than you could ever have imagined and all fears will slip away, especially "what do you fear the most about not drinking".

Anguss.

[Kendra]

My biggest fear about not drinking is going back to it. I fear that my triggers for wanting a drink which is stress, frustration and depression will get the best of me. Luckly I have a wonderful group and by the grace of God when I have things that cause those triggers going on someone in a meeting says something that snaps me out of it and give me hope to not drink. I have been sober for 25 days now and finances were leading me to stress which lead to depression and man I really wanted to drink. The next day in a meeting through my wonderful fellowship I learned to not just apply the process of AA and the steps to just alcohol but to all aspects of my life. God has this way of showing me what I need when I need it.

[WolfM]

I believe that you can not have fear and faith at the same time. Either I am full of fear or full of faith. Most of the time I choose the faith. If I go to meetings, study the Big Book, talk to my sponsor, work the steps, and help other alcoholics, I do not think about drinking or not drinking. I think about living. And once I accepted the fact that some day I am going to die, (and the only thing I can do about it is enjoy the time that I am here), I do not fear death any more. And since that, to me, was the ultimate scary thing, I have faith that whatever happens, it is in God's hands.

Wolf M

[lorie]

:(I believe after 13+ years my fears are false evidence appearing real