Telling the Kids After a Bad Divorice - can it be used against me?

[svr]

Hi all...I have just joined this chat group, I am glad you are here. I am now 17 months sober and doing really well in the program. I wanted to ask more experienced sober folks if you have experience with tricky divorces, where the ex does not know you are an alcoholic and the question is "when do I tell the kids?". My ex will use anything to get full custody (we currently share custody of 2 children) but I see being in the program as a good, comendable thing. I have really enjoyed several conferences and want to take my children with me to the next one. Would you? When have you found it best to "break the news" when in a tricky legal situation. We have been divorced for almost 3 years but the ex is still causing all kinds of trouble. Any feedback would be really appreciated.

[fishdocdon]

This is only my opinion------I would say it's none of his business. If you take the kids ANYWHERE and word gets back to him, just wait and see what happens. If he's wise , nothing will. The fact that you are in AA and bettering your life, for your children also by the way, would be all to your advantage. Any wreckage was from your PAST!!!!!! wHAT IS HE DOING TO BETTER HIS LIFE FOR THE KIDS? wHAT CONTROL DO YOU HAVE OVER WHERE HE TAKES THE KIDS???? sorry forgot caps. anyhow pray on it and good luck. GBWU Don

[samf]

svr, hi.

I wanted to welcome you.

I don't have any experience with your particular sitaution, and don't know anyone who has gone through exactly the same thing.

But am glad you are here. Hope you find th ekinds of answers you are looking for!

Sam