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ex-actor
07-30-2007, 10:35 AM
I am a 42 year old woman who stayed away from drinking because all in my family have the disease. A year ago I married my childhood sweetheart who had a heroin addiction. I became a classic co-dependant, he left and I started drinking. I have lost everything. I am living with my brother and yesterday he gave me two weeks to move out. I am terrified. I have a 28 year old boyfriend who drinks. We have be trying to stop for a while. Last night when my brother told me to leave I had a choice to drink, but I drove to his office, unlocked the door with my key and sat in the dark realizing I need to get help. My family loves me, but they have projected their problems on to me. I am a reminder of where they have all been . . . I have a problem with feeling like a victim, I did this way before I started to drink. So, now I am almost homeless, will be without a job in 2 weeks, (my brother was my employer) and I am freakin' terrified. Someone suggested a sober living house, but I do not know where to go. I want my life back, but a better life. I can't believe I am here. I stopped drugs and drinking when I was 17 and took drinking back up at 41? Drinking is a monster. It took a hold of me and destroyed my life. Now, I have to find the strength to get back . . .

kremjk
07-30-2007, 04:45 PM
Hi ex-actor,

I see that "may be" as a big red flag darlin. Looks klike a loophole to drink some more.
Is that in the back of your mind? ( If you have alcoholism the answer is 'yes')
If so, there are worse bottoms than that. I hope you don't have to find one.

I hope you will attend face to face AA.

You are welcome here at AASL. Please stay in touch with us.

We care, jim k

ex-actor
07-30-2007, 05:50 PM
Geez, you are right! I called a sober living house today and I am interviewing tomorrow for a bed. I will have to attend 3 meetings a week. I am scared to death of relapsing, but not for the right reasons. I am afraid of being homeless. I know I have a long way to go. I am thankful for the honesty I have found here. Now I need to be honest with myself.