Sponsors

[jewels21]

How do I go about getting a sponsor? I can't get to f2f meetings so I really only have this website. I am reading the BB online and almost finished it, but I don't really "get" it when you say about working the steps...I am guessing thats where a sponsor comes in. I am sure I am 9 weeks sober now, (I try not to check the calendar) so I know I am serious about staying sober. I just want to make sure I am sober and not just "dry" or not the "pink cloud syndrome" that I read about. Any help/direction would be much appreciated. Thanks.

[angussdundee]

Jewels, I'm sure some our girls will respond to you in time but in the meantime hell, I'll put in my British ( ? ) Pounds worth in the hope that it helps a little.
You catagoricaly say that you 'can't' get to AA meetings so I won't ask you why, I'll just take your word for that.
Choosing your sponsor is of major importance to the newcomer to sobriety, but how you choose this person will be even more important to both of you. Remember, the need for confidentiality is very important.
I chose my first sponsor, actualy we seemed to choose each other, after attending AA on a regular basis. We were able to listen to each other and develope a rapor that we were both comfortable with. We laughed like hell at each other (sometimes during meetings) and all that helped to break down the barriers that are often present after the last drink goes down.
I personly don't know how that form of 'human contact' can be achieved without attending meetings. But that does not mean to say that it cannot be achieved! After all, I know a merchant seaman who got sober by corresponding with AA's in America and other countries without setting a foot on land or by seeing the colour of thier eyes and he's now sober for over 25 years - miracles do happen.
We tell our newcomers to pick up the phone before they pick up a drink. So I'll say to you, email or preferably call your sponsor at a certain time each day and above all, call when you have a particular problem so you can discuss it. Your sponsor may often make you a suggestion that you dont think makes sense, be honest and question them about it. Your sponsor can then explain the reasoning behind their suggestion and that will give you further information on which to base your final decision which is after all, yours and yours alone.
At the end of the day, your sponsor can only be as good as your willingness to take full advantage of the new relationship.

Hope this helps and please keep coming back, your never alone.

Best wishes,

Anguss.

[samf]

Jewles, hi!

Boy, Anguss said that so well!

I have another source for sponsorship, too...will send you a private message.

Sending a hug!

Sam

[jewels21]

Thank you Angus...that information was amazing and informative. After reading your post, I now know how important a sponsor is. The daily contact I find...wow...I don't really have the words except to say that is pretty deep. I appreciate your sincere words and advice and know that I am taking yours and samf's words seriously and although this journey is bound to get difficult as long as I don't take that first drink...I am hoping to meet a sponsor soon and begin working the steps./Jewels

[MARYD]

HEY I'M MARY I HAVE THE SANE PROBLEM, BUT I JUST STILL HAVE THIS TRUST THING

[samf]

Mary, hi. can Understand about the trust thing. Do you go to face to face meetings?

Sam