could do with a bit of help here

[johnny21]

hi there im from the uk and im haveing hell with my misses at the mo, now i feel sure i have not got a problem but this is just for my peice of mind sooooooooooooo here we go my situation is this.. i work in the offshore oil and gass industry as a health an safety inspec..(wait hold the bricks and rotton veg untill i am finished plz haha) my work takes me away from home fo up to six weeks at a time, now as you can imagine their is a total ban on alchol when i am away so when i get home i like to sit down (of an evening) and drink maybe four to six cans of lager i dont drink during the day or when i have stuff to do of an evening my wife is on the verge of becomeing a total madwoman because she considers me an alchoholic but i disagree i dont drink for six weeks at a time i come home and enjoy the privlage of being able to do so and i do not drink to the point that i am drunk falling around i cant help thinking that if it wasnt this it would be something else we both have smoked a little pot in the past but give it up because she doesnt like to have a drink then she has a go at me for it but i can take it or leave it, belive me when i say this please someone tell me i am not an alocoholic

[samf]

Hey, Johnny21!

Welcome!

I don't know if you are alcoholic or not.

I can't diagnose someone else.

One of things I like is can I control the amount I drink?

Another is when you honestly want to quit entirely can you?

One of the things they suggest in the AA Big Book is to go and start drinking. Then try to stop abruptly.

Try it several times.

Sorry to not have a simple answer.

I think in coffee shop you might enjoy the topic and link on what is your score, just for fun.

Hope everything works out well.

Sam

[kremjk]

AA is for people who want to quit drinking.
If you want to drink, God has given you a free will.

If your love for drink is greater than your love for your wife, then go ahead and drink.
If you chose to not drink, and if you are not alcoholic, you will not need help from AA.

If you are wondering whether you might have alcoholism, the book titled Alcoholics Anonymous may answer the question (from AA's point of view). It is very inexpensive and not hard to find, or you can read it online.

Also, non alcoholics are welcomed to attend OPEN AA meetings. You can learn more about what AA thinks about alcoholism at those meetings.

Love God and do what YOU want to do.

jim k

[CarolD]

Hi and Welcome!
:D

What occurs to me is...
"Why is your drinking more important
than a happy marriage?"

Why not go sober on your next home time
and see how that works?

Blessings

[angussdundee]

Johnny, is that just a few cans of the regular type lager that your drinking there or is it the stuff that you can fly a chopper on? c'mon old buddy you can tell me coz I drank enough of that aviation super lager fuel to fly to New York and back twice. If you don't consider you have a problem then why are you trying to control the amount you drink when your home? Surely normal drinkers don't need to do that. The very fact that we are debating the issue is surely a good reason to investigate further. So why don't you go along to a meeting of alcoholics anonymous near you and just sit and listen to the facts. Then, if your honest you can perhaps come to a conclusion that will prove beyond reasonable doubt if, or if you are not an alcoholic. It's your call Johnny.

Anguss.