recovering alcoholics at parties

[cc]

my 21 year old son has hunting cookouts and usually has beer there. As a mother what should I do when one of his friends that is in aa recovery drops in at his parties. He doesn't live at home( my son) but I am concerned about his young friend. Please tell me what to do--this other boy just spent 60 days in intensive alcohol and drug treatment. Thanks

[CarolD]

Hello...as an alcoholic? in? recovery...it? is? my? decision? to?? go? where? ? alcohol? is? served.? ?

From the? AA? ?Big Book....

"So our rule is not to avoid a place where there is
drinking, if we have a legitimate reason for being there.
That includes bars, nightclubs, dances, receptions,
weddings, even plain ordinary whoopee parties. To a
person who has had experience with an alcoholic, this
may seem like tempting Providence, but it isn't.

You will note that we made and important qualification.
Therefore, ask yourself on each occasion, "Have
I any good social, business, or personal reason for
going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little
vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such
places?" If you answer these questions satisfactorily,
you need have no apprehension. Go or stay away,
whichever seems best. But be sure you are on solid
spiritual ground before you start and that your motive
in going is thoroughly good. Do not think of what you
will get out of the occasion. Think of what you can
bring to it. But if you are shaky, you had better work
with another alcoholic instead!

Why sit with a long face in places where there is
drinking, sighing about the good old days. If it is a
happy occasion, try to increase the pleasure of those
there; if a business occasion, go and attend to your
business enthusiastically. If you are with a person who
wants to eat in a bar, by all means go along. Let your
friends know they are not to change their habits on your
account."


I? think? it's? great? for? one so young? to? be aware od his disease.
He? will? find? his own?? comfort? level as? he? stays? sober.
He? ?deserves to be treated as you would any ither? ?guest.? ? 8)

[samf]

I am able to be at parties where booze is, as long as I am not feeling too shaky.

Usually, it is not a problem for me.

I know every time I drink, I don't stop. I get out of control.

Hoping that this young man knows something similar for himself.

If I wanted to drink, no one in the world could have stopped me...I would find a drink.

Hope this is helpful, somehow.

Samf

[angussdundee]

CC. if he's working his program and doing what's suggested then "He'll" know exactly what to do at parties.Treat him like everyone else.
anguss.

[JOHNNYO]

SAY HELLO ,AND PRAY FOR HIM,IF HE WANTS TO DRINK HE WILL...OR NOT

[johnny21]

just a question... why does every body talk in riddles??? girl if the guy wants to drink and he doesnt want to listen (or the sight of you doesnt shock him into thinking WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING) then girl.. dont worry!!! you can take a horses to water but you cant make it drink