80 days sober

[cme]

hi my name is chris iam 80 days sober sometime wondering if iam always going to be so bored i feel that i have so much more freedom and i really like myself better sober but at the same time i still feel lost at times unable to sleep the little voice in the back of my head saying that just one would not hurt i real interested in connecting with someone who is new to recovery

[samf]

Hi, Chris!

A lot of us have trouble sleeping, early on. I sure did. Going to an AA meeting is always a good idea for getting support in your recovery, if you choose to, too. It's a great thing! Always scary...the idea of walking into a new place, if you are like me, but well worth going past the fear!
Yah that little voice in the back of your head os alcoholism talking to you...I have one of those, too.

http://www.healingresource.org/book.cgi?Display_Welcome

This is a link to the Big Book online...the doctor's opinion in there is great, if you have never seen it...also the first few chapters...I bet a lot of it is stuff you can identify with.

I wasn't as bored after a while...I suggest meetings for part of that...in a while, you may have a whole set of new (sober) friends!

Hope you will keep posting and talking to us! Please feel free to private message, too, if you need to, ok?

And eighty days is really awesome...am proud for you!!

Big hug!

Samf

[angussdundee]

Hiya Chris, anguss here. When I first got sober I also experienced for the first time that 'freedom' that you described. It's important to fill that new found time in a usefull and 'constructive' way that will help your recovery to progress and succeed. The number one way to do that in my opinion is to get to as many AA meetings as possible, find a home group and get a sponsor so you can get started on the twelve step programme of recovery described in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. If you sit around getting bored and feeling sorry for yourself then 'the Devil will always make work for idle hands' (as my old sponsor would say).
Now that I'm around for a few years there just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get everything done, and that makes a big, big change from never having enough time or money to drink all the time to try to fill the hours in that 'destructive' way.
It's all about action now that your sober, so get those fingers typing and come on back to us so we can get to know you better. We want to help you in every way we can.
God help us all.
anguss.

[CarolD]

Fantastic!! :D Congratulations!!

[cme]

I really want to thank you all for your input and support this is all very new to me and i take a liitle time to warm up but i will keep intouch right now i am still at the point where i am taking it one day at a time most days are not so bad. I did try an AA meeting was a little uncomfortable it was a very large group. I think i need to i am going to try to find one with less people .

[WolfM]

Dear Chris,
One of the freedoms we have in early sobriety is the freedom to feel. We did not have that luxury when we were drowning our feelings with alcohol and other things. The problem with feelings is they are not always good feelings. We usually have many memories that provide us with feelings of guilt, shame, remorse, and disgust. The program of AA teaches us how to deal with those feelings. It is working the steps which will release us from the bondage of self and help to remove these obstacles to recovery.
I have heard it said (in meetings, not in the Big Book) that the person who got up earliest is the one with the most sobriety. Having lot's of time in sobriety is good, but we all need to remember that no matter how much time we have, we only have 24 hours.
Meetings, STUDYING the Big Book, getting (and USING) a sponsor, and working the steps. Work's for me.
Wolf M

[samf]

Hey, Chris!

Yah, I was more comfortable in smaller meetings, too. Makes sense to me, if you can find one where you are.

In the big ones, if I hung around, eventually I made a few friends and it wasn't so scary.

Hope you keep coming and posting...this is a great bunch of folks, too...and hope you keep trying the meetings.

Big old hug!

Sam

[samf]

How are you doing, Chris?

Samf

[MIKEYBEEF]

:oHi Cris I am currently 76 days sober and after 58 days I decided that I would stop going to meetings. I feel that there are to many uncomfortable silences. Especially during the smoke break. Dont get me wrong,il go again once I get that urge to drink,ive been so happy lately. Dont ever take your sobriety for granted,and just know that you'll never wake up with a hangover again. The computer is my A.A. Everything you need to learn or know about staying sober is here. ;D

[moon]

Mikeybeef You scare me,do you understand that we have a disease that tells us that we do not have a disease,I can not imagine that you have a sponsor because this is unacceptable.We must work the steps and carry the message,It is important for you to be there for the new commer and to work with and make friends with fellow alcoholics,we go to meetings for several reasons you must get back into meetings or your program will fail I have heard it over and over again.The strange feelings that you have will ease and I am serious you have got to join in on the fellowship you are so newly sober you really do scare me,Do you think that all the people with long sobriety time stop going to meetings No this works the most for us all.Please consider your chose to stop I am dead serious

[moon]

to 80 days, Hang in there you have just began a wonderful journey find the fellowship of AA in a home group We do lots of things together we party all the time (sober parties) It took me a while to plug in but now I find I have a very busy social calender so get to a lot of meetings and hook up with a sponsor and they will hook you up with a lot of things to do that you will not be bored .I remember thinking what can you do to have fun that didn't require drinking or drugging well there is a whole different way to live in AA and you will find it if you take some simple suggestions,get on your phone and call other alcoholics,it works if you work it,best wishes